Are You “One Day-ing” Your Life?
Hey, Tribe! I'm bringing you this episode on a beautiful stormy day. You would think that those are oxymorons — "beautiful" and "stormy." But I like to find beauty in the things that aren't always so much fun, like thunderstorms. Remember — every day is a damn gift! I haven't even got into today's topic, and I'm already going on a tangent. I just had to. You guys know me.
It's September, Tribe, which means one of two things. Either you're carrying on in denial like summer will go on forever, or you're in pretty high-state stress. It's that time of year where there's a change of life, change of schedule, and it's unsettling. Whatever you're feeling, I want you to just stop. Take a breath. Find some gratitude for where you're at right now and focus on one thing at the time. Think about your mindset and how you can pivot to make the most of the fall.
Today we're going to talk about a topic that keeps coming up in my life. It's really close to my heart. To be honest, I thought I'd worked through it, but I guess it's something that keeps rearing its ugly head, so let's talk about it. Let's face it head-on. I've beaten it before, and I'll do it again, and so will you.
This episode is all about what I like to call the "one-day" disorder — this concept of "one day-ing" our lives and our success away. I am genuinely excited to tackle this topic because it’s something I see so often with my clients. You have to remember that you create the impact you want to see in the world. At the end of the day, you're in control. Don't "one-day" your life away. Let's dive in!
Face Your Fears and Listen to Your Soul
How many times have you said, "I'll do it one day"? How many things are you sitting on right now that you've been putting off for "one day"? Weight loss, investing in yourself, paying off your debts — all things you’ll get to one day, right? How often do you find yourself dreaming of what could be, but you stop yourself with "today isn't the day."
I will lovingly call you out here and give you that hard push. I'm all about some serious motivation. Honestly, Tribe, what the heck are you waiting for?! “One day” is never going to come! I hate to break it to you, but "one-day" is never going to happen. You're not going to wake up one day and be like, "oh, I'm going to do it. I'm actually going to do it." Life doesn't work like that, and it's never really going to feel perfectly aligned. As soon as you accept that, it'll be a lot easier to turn "one-day" into today.
There are so many things in my life that I'm like, why the hell didn't I do this sooner? So many successes I could have achieved long before I had the guts to go for it. Why didn't I start this podcast earlier? Why did I wait so long to start my own business?
We're all guilty of doing it, but you've got to remember, if something keeps coming up, it's because it's what you're meant to be doing. It's your soul telling you to take the risk, face the fear, and every time you put your goals on hold for "one day," you're letting fear get in the way.
Fear is scary. When you make a choice to go outside of your comfort zone, it's terrifying. Your ego is trying to keep you safe, away from the unknown and the uncertain. We convince ourselves that "one-day," everything will line up, and it won't feel so impossible and scary. In reality, your mind wants to keep you sheltered in what's familiar, what's known, and what's safe.
We convince ourselves not to take a leap because we're not ready, or we'll regret it. But if you can't stop thinking about something, can't stop talking about it and picturing, Tribe, you've got to do it! The impact this will have on your life is something you'll celebrate forever. It's never too late to pivot your career and build your own success story.
Rip the Band-Aid Off
Tribe, it's time to rip off the damn band-aid. Pat and I say this to each other all the time, and I love it. I know he's going to call me out when I'm playing it safe, and I'll do it right back to him. It's so easy to get into a situation where you're not happy, not fulfilled. All you have to do to make a change is stop, rip it off and change it up. You've got to pursue your passion and leap into it. I'll say it again, rip off that damn band-aid!
The more time you spend indulging your fear and allowing it to hold you back, the more comfortable you're going to get in that "safe" space. The more you'll convince yourself that "one-day" will come, that there will be a time where everything accurately adds up. This is just another example of you getting in your own way. That safe place — it's honestly kind of your worst enemy, and only you have the power to change it.
Whether it's weight loss, financial success, paying off your debts, or starting your own business, you're the only person who can do it. It's as simple as that. There'll always be room for excuses and fear, but you're in control. Lead by example and live the life you want to live. Allow yourself to ignite your passion and make these positive changes.
Adjust Your Outlook and You'll Find Your Belief
I've got some homework for you. I want you to ask yourself how you see the world right now. Take a moment and think about it. Is it through your own lens, clouded in this sense of fear? Is your ego trying to keep you safe, skewing your outlook? If your answer is yes, then it's time to clean those lenses and see the world differently! You have to believe that you can do it, that it's possible now — not "one day." Your outlook and perception are going to impact your belief.
If you want to take this leap successfully, you have to find and identify your belief. It can be as simple as valuing yourself, believing in your gifts, and your ability to succeed. Understanding your past conditioning and accepting that you can change it is such an incredible step.
Identifying this new belief is the first step, but if it's going to stick around, you have to introduce new rituals and new routines to solidify it.
My Step-By-Step Guide to Curing Your "One-Day" Disorder
You guys know how much I believe in this. Putting your goals on paper shows your intent, it adjusts your mindset and gives you motivation. Curing your "one-day" disorder is no different.
Start by writing down three things:
- Your "one-day" dream.
- Your new belief around this concept and your ability to succeed.
- The new rituals and routines you're going to put in place to make this a reality.
It's as simple as that — and it's as complicated as that. It takes work, but you are more than capable of creating your own success. I'm going to be super vulnerable and lay my cards on the table to show you an example of how I implemented this in my own life.
My "one-day" thing is having 100% control over my finances by altogether paying off my debts and investing money in my business. As an entrepreneur —heck, as a human being — you're faced with choices when you make money. How are you going to spend it? How do you decide what to invest in?
I'll admit, for so many years, I have mindlessly spent money. I would eat out, and I would shop without thinking, and this is part of my past conditioning. I can understand where it came from and how it became normal behavior. But, I identified that if I was going to achieve my goal, this belief needed to change now, not "one day."
My new belief is that I am in complete control of my finances. My money gives me freedom and the abundance to live the life I want to live, so it is my duty and obligation to take charge of my finances. So guess what? I wrote it down.
Now that I've written down my "one-day" thing, and ironed out my new belief, I needed to decide the rituals and routines I would put in place. I needed to support this new belief, so I didn't fall back into the "one-day" pattern. Firstly, I had to detach myself entirely from all the emotions money brings. Like anything else in the world, it's an energy, and I decided that I refused to fear it anymore.
Despite graduating from college, I know nothing about money and how to manage it. So guess what? I hired a badass CPA to help me understand investments, 401ks, IRAs, and everything in between. I had to take 100% ownership of my knowledge. I've introduced routine meetings with my CPA, and I've added my Friday finance ritual. Every Friday, no matter where I am or what's going on in the world, I go over my books. I make sure I understand what's happening with my money and that everything is in order.
Just like that, I have taken complete control of my finances, and my "one day" is today. It took work, and it took effort, but I did it by implementing those three simple steps. So can you, Tribe!
Take Control and Own Your Actions
As much as identifying your "one-day" thing and your belief helps you face your fears, I can't go on enough about implementing routines and rituals. They will be the key to your success. Take weight loss as an example. You want to lose 15 pounds, "one-day," but you need help.
You have to take control of the situation and do something. Hire a coach. Start a food log. Adjust the way you grocery shop. Educate yourself and take ownership of your belief that you can change, you can do it now. If you really want the life of happiness, abundance, and joy you picture, you have to own your actions.
My point is that you are the owner of your life and your success. The only person stopping you from achieving your dreams is you!
Why You Should Listen to This Episode Right Now!
I am honestly sending you guys so many positive vibes because this episode means so much to me. This topic, this "one-day" mindset we all need to overcome, ignites a fire inside me. I hope you read this and decide to elevate your health, put your mindset first, and uncover the strong, confident badass you were born to be.
There is no better time to redefine your success and embrace your passion. It's my mission to inspire you, to help you understand the power you have to make positive changes. It seems so overwhelming, like an impossible task. But it's not. You can achieve anything you put your mind to, it's about understanding your why and accepting the how.
I hope these tips help you become utterly unapologetic about living a life of true happiness, freedom, and abundance. If you loved this episode, share it with your friends, and don't forget to tag @thejennkennedy.
I love you guys, and I know you have it in you. "One-day" is now.